“A male friend of mine that develops AAA games told me, “When a woman criticizes me, it goes to a different part of my brain than when a man on my team does. I get defensive really quickly. I’m trying to get better about it.” I don’t think his is a unique experience.
We live in a society that’s sexist in ways it doesn’t understand. One of the consequences is that men are extremely sensitive to being criticized by women. I think it threatens them in a very primal way, and male privilege makes them feel free to lash out.
This is why women are socialized to carefully dance around these issues, disagreeing with men in an extremely gentle manner. Not because women are nicer creatures than men. But because our very survival can depend on it.”
This caller just apologized for not being technology savvy.
He teaches engineering.
“I would like Martin Scorsese to be interested in a female character once in a while, but I don’t know if I’ll live that long.”
(Cont) are entitled to sex. These are the same men who would never experience pregnancy NOR actually see what it’s like to bleed for almost 7 days, deal with cramps, or worry about being stained. These men talk out of their asses while shoving shit in our faces about the “disgusting” things our bodies do. They’re ones to talk. Sorry for ranting but I heard a group of men making fun of how periods ‘disgust’ them, and they bust their “fish joke”. and thought I’d vent a little, anonymously.
Anon, you are so right. It’s disgusting the way that these people talk about us and the things that our bodies do. They say these things at a very impressionable age and reinforce it through the rest of our lives that our bodies are disgusting and must be so clean, and so pure. They pit women against each other to see who is more clean and pure.
It all comes back to power. By berating women’s bodies men establish their dominance and take away our voice. It seems overwhelming to say something when you hear it on a daily basis. It makes you wonder if there’s anyone who doesn’t feel that way and it’s disheartening and eventually we just seem to accept it.
But I will tell you one thing, not a single thing your body does it disgusting. It’s your body and everything it does is natural and perfect just the way it is. All vaginas have a smell. They all smell different and it’s like perfume, it’s not a smell that everyone likes, but you will meet someone who likes your own unique smell.
Menstruation is a normal process that many cultures celebrate as sacred. We went somewhere wrong to think it was dirty and not to be talked about. I want to celebrate it (when the cramps aren’t too bad of course). All vaginas are hairy and different sizes and shapes because we are all so vastly different and that’s a great thing! We should never be made to feel ashamed of the natural hair our body grows, or the shapes it produces and I hate that others have that power over us to make us spend so much time hating our bodies, when in fact, they’re all perfect just the way that they are.